How have you dealt with breakups in the past? How does one remedy a heartbreak?

Heartbreak is the worst. It’s as though we finally got the rug under our feet and now it’s being pulled out.

A big part of my journey has included heartbreak and betrayal. It led me to delve deeply into my scripts around relationships, sexual boundary ruptures, and violence. 

Through those dark years, I now realize what was happening was a massive deepening. 

I needed to drop a layer deeper.

Part of the process is to recognize your own feelings and feel them. Do not ignore what is coming up for you. It is coming up to be felt, to be processed. That is how it can then pass.

Another part of the process is to acknowledge the growth you have experienced in this relationship.

Can you, for a moment, see the bigger picture?

Notice, you’ve grown here, you’ve grown there, you let go of this, and you opened up to that.

You were able to learn, show up for, and surprise yourself in so many ways.

There’s a massive transformation taking place and it’s natural to keep our eyes on the ground and the grief of a major loss.

Can you acknowledge what you are learning?

For me, I was learning the power of being clear, the power of boundaries, the power of doing all I needed to do to stay in alignment with my vision, my work, and everything I want to experience in this life in this body.

I found hope and power in active studentship, devotional practices, taking extended trips over large bodies of water, exploring the underworld and powerful physicality, and crying- a lot. I needed a strong practice and community to help me embody that which I wanted to be. 

All relationships are here to help me see/ experience that which is eternal and that which I need to let go of.

I hope some of this resonates with you.

Sending you so much love.